Why You Shouldn’t Get Married
People have gotten into marriage for the wrong reasons and mindset; they cloud their minds with superficial reasons while leaving the important reasons why they should not marry in the first place unaffected. The following are eight reasons why you should not marry.
You must not marry for the sake of lust
People have married out of lust only to discover that not everything that glitters is gold. People’s beauty or ugliness is measured not from without, but from what comes from within them. An individual’s content is to be weighed above his or her container.
You must not marry out of pity or sympathy
Feeling guilty or sympathetic for any reason about someone’s misfortunes and then marrying them as a consolation is a bad decision. There is a Jill for every Jack. God is able to provide them with assistance that is appropriate for their situation. He is a guide for the blind, a nurse for the sick, and a comforter for the bereaved.
Do not allow yourself to be manipulated by matchmaking
Nobody knows you better than God, and his timing and choices are always the best for you. He is aware of your temperaments, as well as your strengths and weaknesses. God is aware of the assistance He has created to meet your needs. Nobody knows the product better than the manufacturer. God must be involved in our decision.
You should not be forced to marry
Peers and family members put pressure on you. No one in this group can truly quantify the pain and heartbreak that their loved ones go through during marriage; they can only imagine. Imagination is insufficient to right wrongs in a bad relationship. When the problems become too much for you, they will abandon you. What is the true meaning of marriage by the way?
You should not rush into marriage
Allow some time. Time reveals secrets, it heals wounds, and it will reassure you of your choice.
He or she shows no regard for you
Respect also entails not placing a high value on one’s own worth. A relationship like that has a tendency to abuse and violate your rights and privileges, as well as those of your relatives. You have no business with someone you can’t respect or who doesn’t respect you.
He or she does not hold the same religious beliefs as you
Your religious beliefs are the center and pivot around which your entire life revolves. Agreeing to marry people who hold opposing viewpoints is akin to seeking peace in a storm. Two people cannot walk together unless they agree on fundamental issues such as their faith and beliefs.
Our appearance, profession, character, and associations all help to define us. You must be able to see into the future and determine whether you want to be associated with this person in the future. Marriage gives you identity because you and your spouse become one.
I’m sure these will serve as a checklist for anyone who is starting a relationship or planning to take their relationship to the next level (marriage).
Everyone wishes to marry someday, but they must first determine whether marriage is worthwhile. Wrong choices and reasons always lead to the wrong marital outcomes. Because marriage is an endless institution, it makes sense to understand why one should not enter into it carelessly. People marry for a variety of reasons, including lust, sympathy, manipulation, pressure, and a variety of other factors that point them away from the relationship they may have found themselves in.
Caution is essential in situations like this, which can either prolong a man’s life or lead to his death.