After a breakup, as time passes and wounds heal, it is easy to forget why you left your ex in the first place. Reconnect with your ex? Why? Subtle memories return, but should not be enough to convince you to get back with your ex and that you made the right choice.
We cling to the past for fear of what tomorrow may bring. What if everything you’ve ever wanted was waiting for you tomorrow? How many tomorrows would you throw away? Before thinking of hitting that “chat” button hear me out first..
You separated for a reason
You’re an adult now. You did not make the decision to end a significant relationship with someone you care about out of thin air. And if he’s the one who put an end to it, she didn’t either. There were bigger issues for you two to finally cut the cord. These problems do not go away after a breakup. Don’t give up the things you want in a partner for someone who will only disappoint you again.
You’ll find yourself right back where you started
To be honest, how many people do you know who have broken up, gotten back together, and now have long-term relationships that are thriving? Now, think about how many people you know who got back together with an ex only to break up again. The odds are stacked against you. Have you ever heard the expression “doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result is the definition of insanity“? Ask yourself, are your sure you want to reconnect with your ex?
This is more about you than it is about him
If you’re thinking about reconciling with your ex, the first thing you should do is ask yourself, “Why?” Not why did we split up? But why would I subject myself to another unhealthy relationship? Two people can be great on their own, but not on their own. If there were major issues in your relationship, or if you just didn’t get along, you’ll still have the same issues.
Time wastage to reconnect with your ex
You have only one life to live. It is entirely up to you how you spend it. However, take a look back at your life and consider all of the decisions you wish you could change in order to make up for lost time. Do not allow this to be one of those choices. You have goals and dreams, but they can only be realized if you take action.
Dependent on one another
You must recognize that you are clinging to companionship rather than happiness. It takes time to learn to be happy on your own (and this is right around the time you meet your perfect match), but the end result is well worth it.
Once upon a time, you were not good enough. Remember when she made fun of you in front of his friends? Or when he chastised you for drinking another beer? What about when he told you that you should probably go to the gym more often? He does not value you for your worth if he treats his friends better than he treats you. Don’t expect things to improve if you drank less beer or lost some weight. He remains the same person.
You’ve already made it this far
Hello, do you recognize the person in the mirror? I’m single! You’re still alive; your life isn’t over. You’ve already crossed the finish line; why turn around and start all over again? When you go back to your ex, you are the only one who suffers. You waste time, miss out on opportunities, and close doors, only to end up back where you started.
There are a lot of fish in the sea
Take advantage of this opportunity to get out and start living for yourself. Use this time to improve yourself and reconnect with your needs and desires. There are plenty of women out there waiting to take advantage of your time, but you won’t find them in bed with your ex. If you’re worried that all hope is lost, start dating online and going to social events.
Oh wait! Last one “Sex is the same”
Breaking news! The same person. You’ll get back together, and the honeymoon period will last 2 minutes before you both realize the bedroom looks exactly the same. If it didn’t work for you before, it won’t work for you now. Sex is the one thing you have with your significant other that you don’t have with anyone else. Make it a top priority on your to-do list.
Reconnect with your ex? Really?